In With The New

So much to say, so little time, so I’m just going to go for a little bullet recap. And hope that I’m more articulate later.

Jaybird

  • Is in preschool! After some separation anxiety, he has taken to it like a champ. He constantly recites the names of his friends there and has magically acquired the ability to pick up after himself. I love his snazzy trick for putting on his backpack by flipping it over his head. Kid is charming and quite independent. I’m always trying to sneak in cuddles and kisses, but he likes to tell me he’s too busy.
  • Is not really potty-trained, but we’re trying. He’s in undies almost always (or naked, his preferred outfit) and some days are fantastically dry, others full of accidents. At least it’s summer and he’s usually game to pee on a tree.
  • Has two speeds: fast and crash. Last month he had to get stitches after jumping on the bed went awry. And then he fell off the step a week later and busted it open AGAIN. His moms are quite nervous now about tumbles.
  • Is almost weaned. Uno has no more milk as of recently. He still likes to check daily. “Mommy, I’m just going to check,” he’ll say. He still wants it to go to sleep and to wake up, even without the milk itself, and Uno is patiently letting him slowly adjust to not having it. It’s resulted in a spike of Mommy clinginess. We’re both tired of hearing “Mommy Mommy Mommy” all the time. I’m mostly, pretty much, not taking it personally, but I’ll admit I look forward to the day when he requests me for something. Uno says that he does sometimes when I’m not around and I believe her. But I think I might need video.
  • No longer naps. He’s done. It has freed up our evenings, given that he sleeps about 7:30 – 7:30 each night, and it has cured him of night wakings. Oh, lord, how I love it. Sometimes we feel guilty, though, when he gets fussy and droopy around 4 or 5 pm and we keep him awake (knowing he could probably use a nap). Also, evenings are a little rushed: dinner-bath-bed has to happen in short order.

Moms

  • We are two working women, now! Being financially solvent is definitely a relief. Uno’s job is emotionally draining, and sometimes we discuss her looking for a new one. Being a counselor for traumatized kids / families – you can imagine that some days are hard and hard to leave at work.
  • My job, on the other hand, requires almost no emotional investment. It’s a) low stress and b) full of twentysomethings who prefer pinging me via chat rather than talking to me even when we are TWO DESKS AWAY from each other (but are clever, fun and make me laugh). I still look around on occasion and can’t believe this is my life. It’s so different than adjuncting. I can’t even begin. There is a margarita machine in the break room. There is a break room. There is a 401K. It’s pretty soulless, though. I mean, it is. I am not using my powers for good. (It’s ad copy, did I say that?)
  • We continue to help take care of Uno’s grandmother, who has Alzheimer’s. It is a lot of work, but very necessary. Uno has her power of attorney and is the one shouldering most of the planning, calling, finances, legal issues and so on. I worry about her and compassion fatigue, given this and her job.
  • That said, our summer has been full of good friends and beach time, berry picking and visiting. We have been careful with our time, trying to do things that nurture our family, and I’m proud of us for that.
  • Our garden is thriving like never before, just chock full of zucchini and tomatoes and beans and flowers, and it feels like a lovely corollary to our lives.
  • Oh, and I AM GETTING AN ESSAY PUBLISHED IN SALON. It’s a short memoir piece. I can’t believe it, am pretty excited, pretty nervous, grateful, in shock. I’ve had other publications but never so public, so visible.
  • Finally, baby #2 is still very much on our minds, but we put the process on hold until next month or September. I found out that I can have 16 – yes, 16 – weeks of paid leave, but I have to be at this job a calendar year before I qualify. Hence the waiting. It was hard to wait after just one try, but after the first cycle came and went I realized I was relieved, too. Juggling the new job and new childcare configurations and everything else is a balancing act, one that we’re getting better at, but I think TTC would have tipped the scales too much this particular month and last. I’m hopeful that when we start again, my body and I will be more relaxed.
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12 thoughts on “In With The New

  1. 12 hours of sleep and an article in salon! Link please!!! 16 weeks aint bad either 😉 sounds like a lot of great things now and on the horizon!

  2. Lots of great new things happening for your family. I know the job is not what you dreamed but still, I posit: A) you get to write and B) you get benefits that are quite good and C) you get to write. And perhaps the Salon article will offset some of the soul-suckingness of the job for pay. I hope you’ll link to it so we can all ooh and ahh over it. September will be here soon and you’ll be in line for a coveted May/June EDD. I always wanted a May baby….

    1. Oh, tbean! You are always so sage. 🙂 Seriously, this is helpful. I actually kind of love my job, but can’t believe I love it, you know? I am embracing how much it frees me up mentally. And it involves a fair bit of creativity and critical thinking, not to mention good grammar, which I enjoy.

  3. Wow, it sounds like things are going really well for the most part! Thanks for the great update. I would also love the link to your Salon article. Congratulations! That is wonderful! 🙂

  4. Wow, 16 weeks. Color me jealous. We are going to start trying again in August of September too. Good luck with all of that. Soul sucking it completely OK in my opinion. Especially with good benefits to support your family.

    Jaybird is a pretty sweet nickname for a baby who likes to be naked all the time! I’m glad the preschool is working out. We’ll send Juju to a Montessori preschool when she’s 3 (C’s mom is a teacher there so we get a 50% discount on tuition, woot) and I so look forward to it.

  5. CONGRATULATIONS on the Salon piece!!!! Was that loud enough for you?! I’m excited. Will you pass the info along to us about the article?

    Also, I’ve nominated you for a blog award! Check out my most recent post for details. Hoping that you’ll have the time to play along.

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